My EA manages my calendar, not me. That's the boundary.
It sounds like a small distinction but it changes everything. When you control your own calendar, every new request becomes a personal negotiation. Someone asks for 30 minutes, you think "I can squeeze that in," and by Friday your week has been hijacked by other peoples priorities.
When my EA controls the calendar, theres a buffer between the request and my time. She knows what my top priority is for the week. She knows which days are protected for deep work. She knows that after a heavy day of calls, tomorrow stays light. Requests still come in - she just filters them through the context of what actually matters this week.
The tradeoff that keeps trust: she never says no on my behalf. She says "Filip's focused on something this week - can we find time next week, or is there something I can help move forward in the meantime?" The person feels heard. My focus stays protected. Nobody gets offended because the redirection comes with an alternative, not a rejection.
The one thing I had to accept to make this work was giving up the illusion of control. Early on I kept checking my calendar and overriding her decisions. Adding meetings she'd blocked, rearranging days she'd structured. It took a few weeks to trust that someone else could protect my time better than I could - because she wasn't emotionally attached to every request the way I was.
Once I stopped managing my own schedule, my progress on top priorities went from inconsistent to predictable. Not because I got more disciplined. Because I removed myself from the decision entirely.